nah - a lot of it is historical. ice is just the latest excuse (and a piss poor excuse at that) along with whatever other excuse. upbringing, no father, alcohol, copying the father, it's all just ******** excuse.
dv is the lowest of the low, and controlling and bullying and coercion are the same thing without the bruises.
any guys on here who get into any of that should take a good hard look at yourself, without the ******** excuses. the buck has to stop somewhere.
if you think you've got some right to hit the person you're supposed to love, then you're ******* sick.
men who blame substance abuse, upbringing, stress, the wife, their self righteous indignation or anything else aren't men. they're slime.
if your problem's that big, be big and walk away. you can always start again.