Droopy Brew
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No I think you are wrong here. You seem to think it is only people with anger issues that perpetrate DV and that is the only cause. While that makes up some of the cases, what you are not taking into consideration is offenders perception of what is DV.wide eyed and legless said:Depression, anxiety and bipolar are treatable all with drugs and I doubt whether anyone in those three categories would physically, psychologically or emotionally abuse people, it is those with anger management who are the issue here.
The only treatment for those people is counselling, but they first have to admit they have a problem and seek treatment.
That guy Little in Port Lincoln drove into the bay, his wife and friends told him he had a problem but refused to admit to it leading to the tragic deaths of those children. Sane people don't do things like that.
Of course something can be done about anger management but it is up to the person who cannot control his anger, as I have said previously, to admit there is a problem and go to counselling. The other question is why would someone stay in a relationship which is violent abusive and controlling, we can't make them leave.
Your last paragraph supports what I have been saying, they have a problem and need help, but this is what is being done now, its a complex issue so what is the next step to getting an acceptable standard of social responsibility those who carry out these acts of violence .
They may not see controlling their spouse with mental or psychological or physical behaviour as domestic violence because that is a normal relationship to them. Either through experiences within their own family or cultural experiences through peers or extended family. It isnt necessarily someone with anger problems or mental illness, it can often be a result of learned behaviours.
That is why there is a big push for education through schools to young people so that those with a perception that sees this sort of behaviour as normal may work out that, hang on a sec, this isnt normal. Keeping in mind that it is as important to educate kids that are not only potential offenders but also potential victims. Often the victims of DV have a skewed perception and think it is normal to be treated like that and gravitate towards those types of partners. There are a lot of generational patterns with both offenders and victims when it comes to DV.
To say it is human nature and you cant stop people with anger issues is a cop out. I have no doubt that addressing this issue and using tools like education can reduce the instances of DV substantially. You will never eliminate it but lets have a crack at minimising it hey?