As I said before, most of the spoilage bugs are aerobic. You see an infection growing on the surface because that is the interface where oxygen in the air and sugar in the wort are both available. If you see stuff growing on the surface it means there is oxygen present. No oxygen, no infection.
As for aerating before pitching, that isn't relevant. Yeast use oxygen initially but quickly change to anaerobic fermentation, having used up all the dissolved oxygen. This stuff is pretty basic brewing 101.
you can compare keeping out air to sanitising. No-one would advise using a dirty fermenter, but if you use a dirty fermenter you probably won't have any problems, chances are you could keep using a dirty fermenter for a while without getting an infection. But why would you, we all know it is better to use a clean fermenter?
Unlike dirt oxygen is colourless and odorless, necessary for life. But you don't want it getting near your beer, it can only cause problems. At a low level it may not cause problems, but beyond a certain level it is 100% certain to ruin your beer. Why take the chance?