Anything to do with Child Access gets my blood boiling as there are there are 2 sides to this argument, the bottom line is the children lose. Individual cases should be looked at and suitable arrangements should be made accordingly TAKING INTO CONSIDERATION ALL FACTORS as most times the courts don't.
My point:
SCENARIO 1:
My partners ex Husband is a TNUC (a backwards C**t) alcoholic wife beater yada yada. He had access to the children every fortnight over the weekend. Over that weekend he filled the kids head full of shite about the mother, her family, the relationship with me, as well as him having a different partner on the nights they were there. He would phone consistently whilst pissed and upset the children with his rantings. He even called his 13 year old Daughter GST - Get Some Tits. I could go into more but you get the gist. Bottom line is he was granted this access from the courts regardless of what he did or said while he had them.
SCENARIO 2:
My BIL and his Partner separated just before she found out she was pregnant. From about 12 months old the BIL wanted more access to him as it is his only child. The ex has been doing everything in her power to make it difficult for him to get any sort of regular access, citing that he is demand breastfed, and also moving another 20 minutes away from him to make it more difficult. They went to mediation and was granted 2 hours on 2 days and she wouldn't budge on anymore. It went to Court and ended up with 2 hours on 3 days but couldn't get anymore because the child is "Demand Breast Fed", the child is now 18 months old FFS, and states she will breast feed until the child is at least 4 years old. Now don't get me wrong, I agree 100% with breastfeeding, but she is using it to manipulate the situation, considering she has 4 other children that she never did that with before and she wont express or allow the BIL to feed him any solids. The older 4 children also have been manipulated by her that they suffer Separation Anxiety from the Mother so bad that they are now Home Schooled as they cannot leave her for those 6 hours during the day.
/End Rant...