So my partner (Kelly) and I decided whilst in Tassie earlier this year that we would like to elope to europe and get married in italy next year (2010).
We decided that we really arent the formal wedding type, both of us would much rather have a nice big holiday to europe than paying for a wedding.
We decided that we wouldnt tell our parents and we would only tell a couple of freinds who we would need to use to help organise it that we could trust wouldnt tell anyone.
The reason we dont want to tell our parents is because we both felt that if our parents knew they would want to be involved and would want to come over for the wedding - something we really dont want. We just want a nice quiet wedding no fuss (part of the reason we chose italy was because its one of the easiest places in Europe to get married). A quiet ceremony with the two of us (and the witnesses) and then out to a quiet dinner.
BUT one of the people Kel told was a girlfreind who works for kels parents. She was telling Kels mum how she is planning to elope for her second marriage. Then Kels mum turned around and told her how shattered she would be if she wasnt involved in her only daughters wedding.
So now Kel is having second thoughts about not telling our parents. My parents wouldnt really be bothered too much - they'd justy be excited that we got married and did what we wanted and that we got to europe!
So what should we do, Should we tell our parents?
If so when should we tell them (we've booked our flights for march)?
What if they want to be involved - how do we tell them that we dont want them involved
We decided that we really arent the formal wedding type, both of us would much rather have a nice big holiday to europe than paying for a wedding.
We decided that we wouldnt tell our parents and we would only tell a couple of freinds who we would need to use to help organise it that we could trust wouldnt tell anyone.
The reason we dont want to tell our parents is because we both felt that if our parents knew they would want to be involved and would want to come over for the wedding - something we really dont want. We just want a nice quiet wedding no fuss (part of the reason we chose italy was because its one of the easiest places in Europe to get married). A quiet ceremony with the two of us (and the witnesses) and then out to a quiet dinner.
BUT one of the people Kel told was a girlfreind who works for kels parents. She was telling Kels mum how she is planning to elope for her second marriage. Then Kels mum turned around and told her how shattered she would be if she wasnt involved in her only daughters wedding.
So now Kel is having second thoughts about not telling our parents. My parents wouldnt really be bothered too much - they'd justy be excited that we got married and did what we wanted and that we got to europe!
So what should we do, Should we tell our parents?
If so when should we tell them (we've booked our flights for march)?
What if they want to be involved - how do we tell them that we dont want them involved