Brewing_Brad
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All this gay talk of late has got me thinking and I think best when I write. This forum got me thinking about it, and so I'm posting back to this forum. Read if you want, if not...don't. My brews will taste the same regardless of your opinion 
Cheers
Brad
--Start rant--
"Fuckin' faggots!"
It shocked me. I was quite literally speechless. I was walking with my boyfriend when a car drove past and someone yelled that at us; "fuckin' faggots!" and just as quick and while they were still very much in ear shot, my boyfriend yelled back "that's Miss ****** to you!"
Regardless of my boyfriend's camp retort, I suddenly found myself in position that I had never been in before and, truth be known, it made me angry....in fact, it made me VERY ******* angry. I mean, who was this dickhead calling me a ******? Do you know me? Have you met me? Just because I was holding my boyfriend's hand at the time you felt that gave you license to yell obscenities at me?
Well, allow me tell you just a little about myself.
I was born and raised in country NSW. I grew up fishing, shooting and pig hunting. I played football (League and Union), I've ridden bulls in rodeos and I grew up chasing brumbies like the Man from Snowy River. I've slaughtered pigs, sheep and cows (humanely of course, for food).
Then there's my husband (we had to go overseas to get married...topic of another rant on another forum) he's a car nut. He can tell you about every make or model, from Holden to Suzuki. He knows how they work, how to fix 'em and how to drive them. If its car, he knows it.
Together we brew beer & distill moonshine and we're both as blokey as we need to be and blokier than many straight guys we know, but yet, just because we happen to be "same-sex attracted" (aka we both dig guys) we are considered less manly.
We're, well..."faggots".
But ya know what? Being an open, out there, "out of the closet" homosexual is one of the toughest things anyone can go through (man or woman). Talk about separate the wheat from the chaff! All our lives, the formative years growing up through to the years where we become "aware" of our differences, we are constantly bombarded with messages from the telly, our parents, our sporting heroes and especially our religious leaders, telling us we're "wrong", "disgusting", "going straight to hell" (ha! See the irony there? No one ever goes "gayly to hell" do they?). Society tells us that gays are sick and twisted individuals, and that's exactly how were are made to feel. So for someone to come out and own up to being gay, well, that takes ******* balls.
But that aside, the thing that shits me most is that the majority of sexual assault cases (male to male and adult to child) are perpetrated by guys who identify as straight. Yet it's us "faggots" who are branded with the sickening label of pervert and pedophile (and let's not bring the whole priest thing into it).
What? You're questioning the fact that they identify as straight yet commit sexual assault against other men or children? Yeah, I can see your point, but the reality of the fact is, it's not about sex, it's about control. I'm not going to quote facts and figures, if you're interested, look it up. I did.
It's for this very reason that I avoid being alone with my nieces and nephews, or any other children for that matter, just in case of a misunderstanding? Just in case anything could happen that could be misconstrued as predatory behavior or even an assault (sexual or other). ****, even a pat on the head can be read the wrong way and I am left with no recourse simply because I'm gay and therefore automatically (yet wrongly) labeled a pervert! Put yourself in my shoes; You can't hold your own neice's hand or pick your nephew up when he falls in case someone complains "that pervert TOUCHED that little child!" How powerful that one word is..."touched". It could mean anything!
This is what I, and many others, face every day of our lives as a gay man. Simply because of the fact that one small aspect of our lives (who we are attracted to) is different from the rest. The rest of our personalities or histories aren't taken into consideration at all. You're a fag therefore you're a pervert.
Homosexuality is not about control, harm or hate – it's just another, different form of love between two human beings yet, sadly, the reaction to this love is commonly outright hatred (how can someone hate love? Isn't that a contradiction in terms?).
So yeah, if you want to call me a ******, go right ahead; but that's MR ****** to you.
I'm at peace with who I am. Are you?
--End Rant--
Cheers
Brad
--Start rant--
"Fuckin' faggots!"
It shocked me. I was quite literally speechless. I was walking with my boyfriend when a car drove past and someone yelled that at us; "fuckin' faggots!" and just as quick and while they were still very much in ear shot, my boyfriend yelled back "that's Miss ****** to you!"
Regardless of my boyfriend's camp retort, I suddenly found myself in position that I had never been in before and, truth be known, it made me angry....in fact, it made me VERY ******* angry. I mean, who was this dickhead calling me a ******? Do you know me? Have you met me? Just because I was holding my boyfriend's hand at the time you felt that gave you license to yell obscenities at me?
Well, allow me tell you just a little about myself.
I was born and raised in country NSW. I grew up fishing, shooting and pig hunting. I played football (League and Union), I've ridden bulls in rodeos and I grew up chasing brumbies like the Man from Snowy River. I've slaughtered pigs, sheep and cows (humanely of course, for food).
Then there's my husband (we had to go overseas to get married...topic of another rant on another forum) he's a car nut. He can tell you about every make or model, from Holden to Suzuki. He knows how they work, how to fix 'em and how to drive them. If its car, he knows it.
Together we brew beer & distill moonshine and we're both as blokey as we need to be and blokier than many straight guys we know, but yet, just because we happen to be "same-sex attracted" (aka we both dig guys) we are considered less manly.
We're, well..."faggots".
But ya know what? Being an open, out there, "out of the closet" homosexual is one of the toughest things anyone can go through (man or woman). Talk about separate the wheat from the chaff! All our lives, the formative years growing up through to the years where we become "aware" of our differences, we are constantly bombarded with messages from the telly, our parents, our sporting heroes and especially our religious leaders, telling us we're "wrong", "disgusting", "going straight to hell" (ha! See the irony there? No one ever goes "gayly to hell" do they?). Society tells us that gays are sick and twisted individuals, and that's exactly how were are made to feel. So for someone to come out and own up to being gay, well, that takes ******* balls.
But that aside, the thing that shits me most is that the majority of sexual assault cases (male to male and adult to child) are perpetrated by guys who identify as straight. Yet it's us "faggots" who are branded with the sickening label of pervert and pedophile (and let's not bring the whole priest thing into it).
What? You're questioning the fact that they identify as straight yet commit sexual assault against other men or children? Yeah, I can see your point, but the reality of the fact is, it's not about sex, it's about control. I'm not going to quote facts and figures, if you're interested, look it up. I did.
It's for this very reason that I avoid being alone with my nieces and nephews, or any other children for that matter, just in case of a misunderstanding? Just in case anything could happen that could be misconstrued as predatory behavior or even an assault (sexual or other). ****, even a pat on the head can be read the wrong way and I am left with no recourse simply because I'm gay and therefore automatically (yet wrongly) labeled a pervert! Put yourself in my shoes; You can't hold your own neice's hand or pick your nephew up when he falls in case someone complains "that pervert TOUCHED that little child!" How powerful that one word is..."touched". It could mean anything!
This is what I, and many others, face every day of our lives as a gay man. Simply because of the fact that one small aspect of our lives (who we are attracted to) is different from the rest. The rest of our personalities or histories aren't taken into consideration at all. You're a fag therefore you're a pervert.
Homosexuality is not about control, harm or hate – it's just another, different form of love between two human beings yet, sadly, the reaction to this love is commonly outright hatred (how can someone hate love? Isn't that a contradiction in terms?).
So yeah, if you want to call me a ******, go right ahead; but that's MR ****** to you.
I'm at peace with who I am. Are you?
--End Rant--
