OK, just a follow-up if anyone is interested in this story.
Firstly, DS - you were right, the shaft of the Harris reg finishes too wide for the neck of the sodastream adaptor, so you have a brass-on-brass mating and the plastic washer doesn't actually do anything. Fortunately mine made a great seal regardless (the brass is soft enough I suppose) and like I said, I've noticed no loss of gas in a week. It is probably worth fixing though.
As for the direct SS-into-reg adaptor, well I got onto Harris in QLD, and the news isn't good.
Apparently, Harris had to use a special thread in order to get licensing to sell into the 'domestic' homebrew market. I am told it is a 'parallel thread with a sealing washer' (mine contains no washer, so I assume its machine shop terminology for the brass mating surfaces?), as opposed to a tapered thread which is the norm but slightly more deadly for meddling kids. Apparently, it will be almost impossible to find anyone who can recreate this thread. The guy at Harris (who will remain nameless to protect the helpful) couldn't even tell me the specs of it, it is that weird.
I doubt he was stringing me the usual line, because he actually told me that my best bet would be to get the shaft modified (ie, cut it down, keep the threaded reg end, and get it and the SS adaptor tapped and threaded into each other).
So, does anyone know of a machinist in Melbourne who could do a decent job of this for me? The reg and adaptor have cost me the best part of $200 between them so I'd prefer to get someone skilled onto the case, rather than the old guy next door with a wobbly lathe, if you know what I mean
BTW there is a pic of the dismantled parts here:
http://www.geocities.com/wortgames/pics/050215-006.jpg